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Dating Ick part 2

May 17
2 min read

Updated: Jun 8

Let me preface by saying that when I met my late husband, I was done with dating. I had given up on the possibility that a good, godly man existed. Then BAM, he dropped into my lap. After he passed, I deeply missed that connection we shared and knew I wanted it again. Our love was known as a “fairy tale romance” and honestly, if I have another relationship, I want nothing less than what I had. He was truly amazing.

I thought I wanted to date again, but as I dipped my toes into the dating pool, I got the “ICK”… Most women know what that means! Once you get the ICK, it’s hard to get UN-ICK’d. HAHAHA….. I have a deeper understanding of why women stay single and why there are so many women choosing to embrace singleness. The dating pool has 💩 in it.

1. Dating apps SUCK, and there are no single men at my church— I literally am home, at Walmart, at the park, or at church, so naturally I thought dating apps were a good idea. It’s atrocious; I deleted them after a few days.

2. Most men aren’t real Christians. They spew the label but bear no fruit. Your words and actions have to align, or you will be gone.

3. I like my space—I like taking care of myself and my kids. I don’t want to take care of a man. By this age, they should come self-sufficient and able to take care of themselves.. But do they?

4. Why are “What are your hobbies” such a big topic. Yall have hobbies? LOL I have no hobbies, unless you count vegging out on the couch, taking care of myself & kids, looking like Adam Sandler, meal prepping, and just existing in my peaceful home.

5. I don’t have a lot of spare time, and the time I do have, I like to chill at home.

6. I don’t think I want to date a man with children. I have kids, and I have dated people with kids before & balancing 2 different parenting times can be overwhelming and chaotic. I know in today’s time, most people have kids by this age, but after seeing what I’ve seen on the apps and hearing how men talk about their children’s mom, I’m disgusted. Some parents are crazy, yes, but I’m not interested in the drama. We live pretty drama-free over here.

I think I have realized this may be my season of widowhood where I remain alone, and that is okay. Am I doubting that God could place another man in my life that was like my Joshua? No…. Am I embracing being alone? 1000000% I’m all about peace over here, and if it disturbs it, it’s got to go.

Think I’m going to adopt another cat….. JK JK JK

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