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Life; Widow Edition
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Grief is grief, and Im a little angry
If you have watched the news or been on any social media platform, you likely know that Charlie Kirk was assasinated yesterday. Im angry....
kateduke91
Sep 112 min read
Being strong in who you are
Do you know who you are? Can the opinions of others sway that? Are you a constant victim? Are you able to let go of what others say, in a...
kateduke91
Aug 272 min read
Come Jesus Come
I came across this song the other day while I was driving. I had never heard it before.. Well, not that I can recall, atleast! Songs,...
kateduke91
Aug 162 min read
His soap..
Yep…. He passed in March of 2024 and I still have his current shampoo bar in the shower.. He loved a certain one from The Soap Factory. ...
kateduke91
Aug 62 min read
Unseen moments, Unspoken words
I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me that he is missing all of what im experiencing with our little family. It doesnt make me feel...
kateduke91
Jul 303 min read


Survival Mode
What is “Survival Mode”? The brains way of booting into “safe mode” after a trauma, life altering event, or even burn out. It is a...
kateduke91
Jul 174 min read
6 months into 2025
Normally at the beginning of each year I do a recap of some things Ive accomplished or things that have happened. Why not do one 6 months...
kateduke91
Jun 221 min read
Dating ick….
When I lost my late husband, whom was seemingly perfect for me, I truly thought my best days were behind me. Widowed at the age of 32, 2...
kateduke91
Jun 183 min read
Surviving E.Coli and Shingles..
DONT EAT SALAD. Unless you clean it with bleach water yourself! 😳 Trust me when I say, it’s absolutely not worth it! Not worth the...
kateduke91
Jun 122 min read
Signs they are with you…
I listened to the most recent podcast from my grief coach and it was on ”The shock of widowhood” from an interview with a current member...
kateduke91
May 234 min read
Spill the tea!
Venting VS Gossip: Venting is usually about expressing emotions and seeking support/understanding with a trusted source, often to process...
kateduke91
May 142 min read


Remembering where I was a year ago…. And noticing where I am now..
From March til June, there are a lot of dates that are upon me. Last year, it went in order of Josh’s death day, Easter, my birthday, his...
kateduke91
Apr 203 min read


He will always be everywhere with me 🤍
Wed, March 27, 2024 - the day my life changed Everyone experiences grief differently, none of us grieve the same. This is an anniversary...
kateduke91
Mar 262 min read


In the dark and minding my business🖤
I don’t watch the news and I don’t have social media….. Which quite frankly is what a-lot of others should likely practice as well...
kateduke91
Mar 212 min read


Removing yourself from their game.
I can’t speak on behalf of everyone that has lost a spouse, but being in a grief coaching group with over 100 women, I can say that 90%...
kateduke91
Mar 12 min read


The one year mark is coming…
Each day I mark off another day from the calendar. And I can tell that my body knows what is coming… I literally can sense the tenseness...
kateduke91
Feb 173 min read
Rain came, Wind blew…
https://youtu.be/uOP4s8fOEm0?si=ED6LZKASWiu-xBbI I always loved this worship song, but after my husband died I kind of clung to it. In...
kateduke91
Feb 162 min read


Hitting pause on being a foodie…
Anyone that knew Josh and I, knew we were “foodie’s”… I can’t even begin to tell you how many people said they lived vicariously through...
kateduke91
Jan 272 min read


Post traumatic growth (PTG)
If you’ve followed me for any time you know I like to always start with an explanation or definition. So here goes…. "Post-traumatic...
kateduke91
Jan 273 min read


A grieving child
I will be narrating a few pictures my oldest has drawn since her Bonus dad died. Let me narrate this picture; She drew this about a month...
kateduke91
Jan 222 min read
Downton Abbey
If you haven’t watched the series of Downton Abbey, and plan too, dont read any further! I rewatched it after a 5 year gap. I had...
kateduke91
Jan 102 min read


And that’s a wrap…2024!
I have survived the toughest year of my life. Man, the feelings that have surged as I sit here and soak in the last hours of the year...
kateduke91
Dec 312 min read
No time limit while on earth
Revelation 21:3 “And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with...
kateduke91
Dec 29, 20242 min read
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