I’d be lying if I said I always wished my ex husband well. Because let’s be honest, after everything he put me through, I did not wish him well for a few years…..Until I did! Yep. After therapy, a lot of prayer, and a few years of time passing, my prayers shifted. That’s the beauty in growth, I guess. He caused me a ton of pain and anxiety. I had to undo a lot in therapy. I had to learn how to set boundaries and what love actually is. Lastly, I had to learn that I can’t c

I have been making a point to sit outside every morning when it is quite cold. Breathing in the cold air, listening to the birds and squirrels. I have my coffee in hand and my bible on the stand beside my chair. During heavy grief, I found sitting outside and listening to nature very grounding. There is actually a technique I learned in therapy many years ago that is the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique. (Pictured below) And it was quite helpful. It reminds us that when our

This year has been different. This time last year, it had only been 8ish months from losing Josh and I was in such survival mode. Anxious over the holidays, thinking I didn’t get enough for the kids, because mentally it felt like that would compensate their loss too, though it would not. I was dealing with drama from his side of the family and it was utterly exhausting. And this year I am not so much survival mode, the year has been way quieter, so the lens is clearer! After

And once I did, it got a whole lot quieter in my life! You will have people in your life that will make you feel guilty for making these changes but when I tell you that after you become okay with being the odd ball out, the villain, or the bad guy when you choose yourself & your family, you’ll feel ultimate freedom! And your life may get a little “boring” from how chill it is! Removing the ones that constantly disrespect your boundaries, run their mouth about you, or only br

Thanksgiving this year hit different. It felt lighter And it was so nice. Waking up my girls this morning sat different with me today. Having coffee and watching them play felt happier. Catching a glimpse of the parade brought back memories of spending Thanksgiving Eve at my Aunt Nancy’s and how every thanksgiving morning we would have cinnamon rolls while watching it. And to top it off, the spread we had at lunch today was amazing. 🫶🏻🤣 Last year was heavy. Grief blocks o

It will seem mean to the ones that use to benefit from you having a lack of boundaries. It will seem mean to the ones you decided to distance yourself from because their very presence drains your spirit. It will seem mean to the ones that didnt value you as a person to begin with. It will seem mean to the ones that get cut off. It will seem mean…. And that is okay! I came across something that said “ Jesus didnt say give everyone access. He said love everyone, not trust every

If I learned anything after losing Josh, it’s that a lot of people throw words out and most of those people mean well, but they do not realize the weight it puts on someone’s shoulders. SOOOOO, If you genuinely want to help someone out whether it is financially or physically this season or ever, Be assertive. Be proactive. It takes just a few changes in your wording to do that. 🚫DONT say “Hey Let me know if you need anything, all you have to do is just ask!” ✅DO say “I’m

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If you have watched the news or been on any social media platform, you likely know that Charlie Kirk was assasinated yesterday. Im angry....

Do you know who you are? Can the opinions of others sway that? Are you a constant victim? Are you able to let go of what others say, in a timely manner? Do you hold the power to not respond or engage? Have you mastered not letting people get a rise out of you when they are committed to try and do it? Can you detach emotionally when needed and let your own ego go? The Bible says in Proverbs 19:11 (NIV) “A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an of

I came across this song the other day while I was driving. I had never heard it before.. Well, not that I can recall, atleast! Songs,...

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I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me that he is missing all of what im experiencing with our little family. It doesnt make me feel...

What is “Survival Mode”? The brains way of booting into “safe mode” after a trauma, life altering event, or even burn out. It is a...

Normally at the beginning of each year I do a recap of some things Ive accomplished or things that have happened. Why not do one 6 months...

When I lost my late husband, whom was seemingly perfect for me, I truly thought my best days were behind me. Widowed at the age of 32, 2...

DONT EAT SALAD. Unless you clean it with bleach water yourself! 😳 Trust me when I say, it’s absolutely not worth it! Not worth the...

I listened to the most recent podcast from my grief coach and it was on ”The shock of widowhood” from an interview with a current member...

Venting VS Gossip: Venting is usually about expressing emotions and seeking support/understanding with a trusted source, often to process...

From March til June, there are a lot of dates that are upon me. Last year, it went in order of Josh’s death day, Easter, my birthday, his...

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I don’t watch the news and I don’t have social media….. Which quite frankly is what a-lot of others should likely practice as well...

I can’t speak on behalf of everyone that has lost a spouse, but being in a grief coaching group with over 100 women, I can say that 90%...