The healed version of you will seem meaner….

It will seem mean to the ones that use to benefit from you having a lack of boundaries. It will seem mean to the ones you decided to distance yourself from because their very presence drains your spirit. It will seem mean to the ones that didnt value you as a person to begin with. It will seem mean to the ones that get cut off. It will seem mean…. And that is okay!

I came across something that said “ Jesus didnt say give everyone access. He said love everyone, not trust everyone.” Love and access are NOT the same thing. He healed everyone but walked with few. Loving like Jesus REQUIRES boundaries. It means wise stewardship, protecting your soul, and guarding your heart.

John 2:24 but Jesus didnt trust them, for he knew all about people.

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The more I heal, the less I care about those that are extremely low effort. You know the type… A combination of the ones that send you an invite to something extremely last minute and then get mad when you say No, the ones that only reach out months apart if that, the ones that try to make it seem like on social media that they reeeeeally care about you & your family but it’s literally for the public eye, the ones that try to guilt you for having boundaries, the ones that get jealous that other people in your life are involved but they put in no effort or time to ask •genuinely• or even try to truly get to know you. (I emphasize genuinely, bc you can ask all day “how are you” ,“do you need anything” but genuine people do more than just that. You can feel a genuine persons emotions behind their motive) The healed version of me doesn’t accept breadcrumbs, and will knock them off the table if you try to give them to me. The healed version of me will appear mean.

The healed version of me has a village of people that genuinely care for me and my girls. I have recently thanked God for my village, because after losing Josh, I didnt really feel like I had much of one, but God took a few and multiplied it to plenty. My village of people check on us daily or sometimes weekly. My village has shown up and showed out. My village has allowed me to let my walls down to trust them, because they have proven time and time again that I can trust them, and even trust them with my children. My village displays a genuine friendship towards me. My village has never ever held my groef over me, or tried to manipulate me.

The healed version isn't focused on the ones that try to fake it into our lives (Because trust me I see straight through the BS.)

The healed version of me is meaner and it’s okay.

Which is Jesus, my village, and church family!