My exhusbands next chapter

I’d be lying if I said I always wished my ex husband well. Because let’s be honest, after everything he put me through, I did not wish him well for a few years…..Until I did!

Yep. After therapy, a lot of prayer, and a few years of time passing, my prayers shifted. That’s the beauty in growth, I guess. He caused me a ton of pain and anxiety. I had to undo a lot in therapy. I had to learn how to set boundaries and what love actually is. Lastly, I had to learn that I can’t carry the baggage around that he gave me, if I wanted to start living. So, when I started to let it go, my heart changed. Im totally human. My prayers went from “Please lord let him get a bitter baby momma, for him to see that I am not….” I wanted him to reap what he had sown. Until my prayers were “Please lord let him learn from his mistakes, and place someone In our daughters life that will love her unconditionally”. Because in the end, you want someone around your kid that will treat them good. And its a bonus if you all can get along.

Now we are living it out! He’s had a steady girlfriend for over a year, and she loves our daughter very much. She knew my late husband and I from her line of work. She has a son of her own, and now, my ex husband and her will be expecting a baby girl this year. Upon the news, I was genuinely happy for them. Still am! I was surprised that it stirred up old wounds of the hurt I felt from him when I was pregnant with our daughter. I decided not to stay there too long because what’s the point? My prayer now is that he has changed, and treats her with the respect she deserves. That he views this as a second chance to get it right. My oldest loves the sister that her bonus dad and I gave her, and shes thrilled for the newest bundle coming from her dads side.

Did I think that 5 years ago, when we divorced, that we would be here, getting along, and rooting for each others families? No. Not at all! But thankfully, here we are!