In the dark and minding my business🖤

I don’t watch the news and I don’t have social media….. Which quite frankly is what a-lot of others should likely practice as well 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t know about you, but for me, being “in the dark” has been pretty nice. Please don’t ask me if I saw what is happening on the news, bc I haven’t watched the news in a LONG time. And Don’t get me wrong, I loved scrolling reels on Facebook, which honestly is why I’ve kept it longer than I should have. I use to have news apps, Facebook, instagram, TikTok, and Snapchat. Until one day, many years ago, I was like what is the point to have this many platforms with people I don’t really know/like, and constantly trying to keep up with each other and slightly compare/compete??? So I deleted/deactivated my news app, instagram, Snapchat, and TikTok. I kept Facebook, up until the beginning of March when I deactivated it. I considered just “logging off” for the next few months, given what all is approaching; Josh’s death day, my birthday, our wedding anniversary, honeymoon, and his birthday! Reminders of what my life was, and people meaning well by reaching out through the social media platform. Deactivation just felt right because I realized I was deleting and unfollowing people left & right, that I didn’t care to see peoples drama, or to read post I know are not true (because yall do realize some people know you in real life, right?🫠), share my own joys, and see other people’s life events. Not bitter… Just tired of “keeping up with” people I have no business keeping up with. I know a lot of people are rooting for me, but there are always people who are not. So, darkness it is.

Pros to going dark:

• less stress & anxiety • improved focus

•more connection with the things around you

• less comparison

•improved sleep

Cons to going dark:

•less exposure

•pressure by others to stay on social media

You can’t compare or worry about things you don’t know. I admit, social media was more distracting than I ever meant to allow. You can scroll to escape feelings, scroll because it’s a habit, scroll to be nosy, and scroll to just pass time. Completely omitting it from my life has been freeing.

People can’t try to ruin what they don’t have access to. And there are VERY FEW that have access to my life and the joys I have in it.

It may be six months, or a year before you see me on Facebook again, and it may be never. 🖤