Things that help out after a loss

I’ve stated before that I don’t remember much about early grief… but I do remember the food, items for me & my kids, necessities, ect that were given!

If you want to help a widow out, be proactive. That speaks volumes! The question or statement of “Let me know if you need anything” stuns us. We don’t know what we need or want, plus who wants to say “pay a bill, please” 😂🤪

Here are some things that spoke to me.

1. Delivering groceries

2. Gift cards (fast food, door dash, Kroger, Walmart)

3. Cash

4. Paying a bill (utilities)

5. Purchasing dog/cat food

6. Meal train, but space them out to every few days because getting a new meal every day is overwhelming.

7. Cleaning service (whether you pay for someone to do it or you just go do it)

8. Purchasing and dropping off items for the baby. (Wipes, formula, diapers, clothes)

9. Helping with projects in the house that you see need done

10. Mowing grass (huge help!)

It truly makes a widows life easier when they don’t have to think. It’s been almost 6 months and I still have widow fog. I have forgotten birthdays, appointments, to eat, days of the week, losing track of time, ect. I set alarms for really important things, like picking my kindergarten up from school so I don’t forget. I’m so thankful I didn’t have to worry about my animals being Fed, kids clothing, formula, diapers, or food for a while.