Grief: Losing your spouse & Things I wish people knew

1. No one grieves the same. Ever.

2. Unless asked, Keep your opinions on “How” the person is/should be grieving to yourself. You have no clue what they are experiencing. NONE.

3. My grief, my life, my rules

4. Grief is forever

5. When you start to assume, take a step back and ask yourself “ Am I walking in their shoes?” And if the answer is “No” then SHhhhhhhh.

6. Grief changes relationships, outlooks, and you…

7. Mentioning them doesn’t remind me he’s gone, but instead reminds me he lived a beautiful life.

8. Grief AND joy can coexist.

9. Triggers are everywhere. Therefore, if i feel triggered, im going home to my safe space.

10. I’m not the same person anymore.

11. The last 24-48 hrs you had with them will replay in your mind over and over again.

12. You say “I could never handle it like you do” but trust me, you would be surprised what you can do because you have no other choice.

13. There are no grief Olympics. No medals being given out for who grieves worse. we all carry it differently. For example, I’m a more private griever. I like to be home & alone. Yes, that is OKAY.

14. It’s not only the big milestones that are hard but the tiny ones too. Day to day life without that person when you shared a full life together is tough.

15. There are no 5 stages of grief. It is like the wheel of fortune, though you aren’t winning any prizes.

Grief is tough. People assume they know how you are grieving or how you should grieve. If you are grieving someone, become deaf to others thoughts and opinions. Learn to let them roll off your back. Because….. at the end of the day, they honestly wouldn’t know what to do if the weight that has been placed on your shoulders were on theirs.

Much love <3